Crafting Your Ideal Life - A Blueprint for Seeking Clarity and Taking Action

What do you want? Answering this will give you the keys to your kingdom. Very few people ask and as a result, live lives of quiet desperation. We've all been there at some point in our lives, not judgement. The purpose of this episode is to let you know that you don't have to stay there. You only need to ask a new question and take new action.

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Most people spend their entire life stress without ever giving a single thought as to what it is they really want or what's important to them. See, I'm here to cut through all that noise connecting you to yourself and the life that you were meant to live. I used to live away the corporate job and I hated it. But I broke through the social norms and pursued my pattern. As a result, I own my own coffee company, and I'm just putting some money that I need, and I get the travel. You too can live a life that you want, but it starts with being clear about what you want. It starts with a new decision. I'm your host, Donnie Rout, and you are listening to the podcast. One line. Crafting your ideal life. There is a simple question that I was reminded of on this most recent trip I took to Asia. The place was Taipei, and the source of this information came from a very unexpected source. It was actually one night at a bar with a group of new people that I just met, and a small interaction that literally lasted for a matter of five minutes. But before I go there, I want to ask you a question. What is it that you want out of life? When was the last time you asked that question? Asking this one question is the most important step and ingredient in creating the life that you want. Why is that? Right? Because by asking and knowing what you want, you know exactly what kind of actions you need to take in order to get it, as well as what you do not need to do. And I'm not gonna the only thing I want you to do as I tell the story, just keep asking, what do you want? And look at your life for the different categories, the different areas of your life, and just see where are you in alignment and where are you out of alignment. So in Type in uh Taipei, I'll I'll start from the story just because I think it'll be a funny story. And you know, I'm sure if you're listening to this, you probably like going on these little adventures that I share with you. So I'm in Taipei, I just met one of my good friends, and we went to this outdoor spa in uh outside of the city. While we were there, we noticed that people were taking like their book bags, like suitcase, like uh not suitcases, book bags, beach bags, and stuff like that. And they were putting it in front of the door. My friend and I looked at it, we're like, what are people doing? They're literally just putting down their valuables, and then they would go off somewhere and hike in on like this little mountain. We're like, it doesn't make sense. Like, why? What are they doing? We soon come to realize that what they were actually doing was reserving their spot in line because the the spa, the uh the the bath didn't open up for another half an hour. So people would drop their stuff there, reserve their spot in line, and then go off somewhere to come back only to pick up their items and and resume their place. Seeing this, I th I thought it was kind of funny, right? I was like, all right, this is funny. Let me save my spot in line. So I put my book back down, followed by a shoe, a sock, and then I took off my watch and put that there, like in in uh subsequent order. And then I just sat there and I watched people. So people were came up to the line and they would look at all the items placed, and they're like, uh, a sock? Watch? Who put in and they were there was they were just confused. I was like, who the hell would put one sock? A shoe in a watch. Like uh, so that I got kicks out of that. But, anyways, the point of the story was when it came time to line up, there were two girls I had met, two new friends of mine, and uh I had made a comment, asked them if they wanted the spot of my shoe. And they weren't really sure. And I explained the whole idea of like the holding the spot in line, so I ended up taking a picture with them holding my shoe, and they ended up getting the line, and I had a new friend or two new friends. Fast forward, so in back in Taipei, uh, we met up later that night for drinks. They were going out to the restaurant near the Red House. And when we went out there, so I truth be told, I was actually very attracted to one of the girls. And when I went out there, I was expecting it to be like, you know, my my my friend and I with her and her friend. That was not the case. And uh so we get to the table, and it's like her, her friend, like a couple and then like four guys or something like that. I was like, what the frig, man? And but you know, so I was there, I was kind of I was a little like a little in a huffy puff. And sitting at the end of the table, like further down, like further away from her, I was sitting near this guy from India, and we we started talking. And as I will normally do, whenever I meet somebody from a different country, especially one that I haven't been to, I inquire about the country and I talk about the places that I want to visit and why I want to see their country. So I was talking to this gentleman, and I was uh asking, you know, telling him how I wanted to go to this ashram in this uh in this part of India. And he said, Well, why do you why do you want to go to the Ashra? You know, the answers are inside of you. I'm like, well, yeah, I yeah, I yeah, I know that, but like I want to have the experience, and he he kept going back to saying the answers were inside of me. And I I thought it so fascinating the just the difference in the cultures, right? Like in Western world, we are constantly looking for the answers outside our guidance when we should really just be looking inside. And he went on to talk about the current moment. He's like, look at where you are right now. Like, is this what you want? Are you happy here? Like, is this what you want? And as I was looking, you know, at the the girl that I was interested in, talking to God, I was like, frigno, no, I don't want to be here. And but like putting that aside, I was able to think about it differently. I was like, well, well, what is it that I really want? Like what in this moment, what is what do I want in this moment? And I started asking that question for all the different parts of my life. Like, well, what do I want for you know the next day? Like, what do I want for tonight? How do I want to experience this moment? At that, when I asked that question, then I I kind of put, I just kind of accepted, all right, there is no romance happening here. And I, you know, I want to just enjoy the company. There were, they were all like really, really cool people. He ended up leaving, but the uh the guys that were who were friends of the two girls I met, they were they were awesome. We ended up doing karaoke, and and I really enjoyed the company of the girls as well. So looking at that, it changed my perspective on what I wanted out of that evening. And as a result, we went out to go karaoke, and we had a we know, we just had a blast being goofy, messing around, and it all came from just asking a different question as to what I wanted to experience. When I left and I and I came back to the United States, I kept asking that question, like, well, what is it do I want? Like, what do I want in this moment? Do I want what I currently have? Right? Do I want do I want to be here in Canada? Well, when I was in Connecticut, do I want to be here? Do I want to live, you know, do I'm here on the beach in Miami. Do I want to live by the water over here? Do I want to live on the West Coast? I just kept asking why, why, like what, what, what, what, what. And as a result of constantly asking what it is that I want, it was like this this needle that was always kind of pointing in the direction and fluttering until it was pointing into that true north. And the the reason why I tell you this is because it's so easy to forget and think that you have to stay with the cards you were dealt, to think that you don't have any other option. When the truth is that all the power is in your hand. The only thing you have to do is ask one, what is it that I want? To take some kind of action towards that. But it's easy to feel like that you you're helpless or that you don't know the way, or um that it you maybe it's not for you. It reminds me of this quote, it says 95% of life is just showing up. Like just show up, be there, and you'll be amazed at what happens if you just show up. Taking a small action is showing up. Taking the moment to ask the question, what do I want here? Is showing up. Living by default, if you're living by default, you're allowing the world to tell you what your life is going to be about. You're allowing the world to dictate where you're going. And I I want to say why this is so important, because our brains, there's so much stimuli coming at you in a given day, right? Think of most people, the first thing they do, they they pick up their phone. First thing they wake up in the morning, uh, pick up the phone, and they're looking at their phone. If you're doing that, stop, right? Because it's stealing your energy, it's stealing your focus, it's stealing your life. The first thing you want to do is focus your thoughts on the direction you want to go, not where the world wants you to go. And start to move there. There's so many distractions happening all around you that it causes our minds to go into this autopilot mode of thinking and making decisions based on what everyone else is doing, what authorities are saying that we should do, rather than consulting and looking inside ourselves. Looking again, just going back to my friend uh that I met at this bar. Literally, it was such a a chance encounter, but I realized that it was really there. Like I was meant to meet this guy, right? Because I went to I went to my phone afterward and I tried to look at for to see his name. I went to Instagram, I clicked on the search bar to see where the um, you know, like where I had what his name was. But and then there was no there was no search. Was he there? Maybe he was a ghost. I don't know. But maybe he was just a spiritual guide that I was meant to meet there. I I think we are all meant to to to be spiritual guides for others. But the uh the lesson I learned from that was super impactful, and it was just a reminder to constantly ask, what do I want? What do I want? And take steps to get out of the place that you don't want if you are in a place that you don't want, to start to move towards something constantly recalibrating. With that said, what do you want? What do you want in this moment? I'll tell you right now, I want to get outside. It's really, really windy here in Miami, but I'm gonna go outside, I'm gonna have an apple first with some almond butter, and then I'm gonna go grab an espresso. That's what I want. Then that's kind of how I like to break up my day. Um, but joking aside, well no, I'm not joking, I'm gonna go have one. But what is it do you want in this moment? What do you want to feel? Right? What do you want for the next week of your life? Where do you want to live? Are you happy where you are? What do you want? Just keep asking questions. What do you want? And you'll be surprised by asking them frequently. Your mind is automatically gonna start going there and be like, well, what do I want? What do I want? What do I want? And you're gonna be like, uh, you know, yeah, no, I really don't want to do this. You know, all right, I'm not gonna do that. Let me, oh, I do want that. And you'll literally start going on autopilot because you're gonna be asking a more empowering, a more powerful question versus what do I not want? What do I want to avoid? Because guess what? Where your attention goes, where your focus goes, energy flows. So by focusing on all the stuff you don't want, you feel more of it. Not to sidetrack. But with the the hernia surgery I'm gonna be getting, like the more I focused on the feeling and the sensation in uh the bottom part of my abdomen, the more intense the feeling was, right? Like, but it when I didn't focus on it, it felt fine. The moment I started touching it and focusing and telling people about it, using like verbalizing it and putting words to it, all of a sudden now it was freaking, it hurt, like my stomach was upset. What do you want? Let that be the question that guides every moment of your life. And then lastly, again, what action do I need to take? What do I need to change? What do I need to do to get to that thing? To to follow and move towards what it is you want. Such a simple episode, uh simple lesson, but it's extremely powerful. So I that is all I have for you to tell you because uh not that's not all. I mean, that's a big all, right? And this is one of the things that I I go through when I talk with people about the the blueprint, uh, the one light blueprint, but I I'll go a little bit deeper with questions, but it's just asking better questions to get more clarity and then noticing that the sensations in your body as where they're guiding you. Hope you enjoyed this episode. If you did, please hit that subscribe button, hit the thumbs up, share this with five people whom you know it would benefit from. Thank you so so much for tuning in. I appreciate you taking the time to sit here with me to conspire and get inspired about the life that you were meant to live. So remember you only get one life live fully, live passionately, and most of all, live now. Thank you guys for tuning in. God bless, and I will see you again next week.